In this article,Jim Selman suggests that the way to deal with "bad" days isn't through positive thinking. Positive thinking masks what's really present for us in our experience, including the so called negative emotions such as anger, sadness, and despair. He also points out that he never experiences "bad' days because the word "bad" is meaningless - it's really a judgment for what's occurring.
Observing what's present alters our experience
There's a way of speaking about our experience that will connect more directly to it as well as to our commitments. Rather than using the words "good" or "bad" to describe our days, we can use words that are more distinct such as "satisfying, exciting and challenging, relaxing, empowering, difficult or interesting." The point is that we have a choice in how we observe the world based on our commitments in a given moment.
About Jim Selman
Jim Selman is a seminal leader in defining the theory and practice of business coaching and a noteworthy contributor to the field.
A recognized authority in the field of organizational transformation and culture change, Jim consults with clients on four continents as CEO of Paracomm Partners International and has a waiting list for his services.
He has been privileged to work in education and research with some of the leading thinkers and practitioners in the fields of transformation and management, including Warren Bennis, Peter Senge, Ken Blanchard, Fernando Flores and Richard Pascal, among others.
Jim’s current passion is to transform the culture of aging from one of decline and loss to one of possibility and power. He is active as founder of The Eldering Institute® , a regular blogger at Huffington Post, principal contributor to the Serene Ambition blog and an advisory board member to Praemia Group. He is a former member of the California Commission on Aging, a past director of the Breakthrough Foundation, a founder of Growing Older (a non-profit for seniors’ education) and a Founding Member of the Legacy XXI Institute.